To help your child become an autonomous and resilient learner:
Help her master her emotional responses to events using the ABC Model of Resilience.
Different people interpret and react to identical experiences in very different ways. While some people are innately more positive and rational, others tend to interpret and react to situations more negatively and irrationally, which can lead to unhappiness, frustration – even depression and anxiety.
In his book, Flourish, Martin Seligman describes pioneering CBT psychologist Albert Ellis’s ABC Model for challenging irrational beliefs. Ellis identified that it is not an event or person (A) that makes us feel a certain way (C), but it is our way of interpreting that event or person (B) that causes how we feel about it (C).
Therein lies our power: we have the choice to interpret a situation positively, neutrally or negatively, and thereby change how we end-up feeling about it. In other words, we have the ability to become more resilient – to change the way we cope with experiences and learn to bounce back from adversity more quickly.